The heart wants what it wants, and there’s no two ways about it.  To the extent that we don’t get what we want, we make ourselves unhappy and unsatisfied.  That may leave us feeling upset, frustrated, disappointed and deeply discouraged.

I think many people just give up. Henry David Thoreau wrote, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Sad and kind of pathetic, right?

I don’t want to live my life that way and I don’t want you to either.  Most people try to convince themselves that they are happy enough (when they really aren’t).  It’s very easy to rationalize and make excuses for not getting what we truly want. Most people are expert at it and well practiced.  They can tell you instantly all the reasons why their life is not turning out as good as they hoped it would.

I hope you’re not in this camp, but if you are… maybe it’s time to stop making excuses and start making a change.

Based on many years of observation, education and personal experience I have a theory which explains the situation. Continue reading →